I talk about

Myself. A lot.

I want people to know what is going on in my life and I want them to talk about me, back. The irony of this post is that as I'm trying to tell you that I talk about myself a lot and try to fix that problem I'm actually talking more about myself. Again.

Oh well, it can't be helped.

If you have ever read The Five Love Languages you will understand the words I'm about to type.

Words of Affirmation. - Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

That's me. I'm all about being told that I rock. Even on the days that I don't rock I want people to say it. I also like to be hugged and to have quality time with my 'loved ones'. (Those were my next highest scores)

If you have no idea what I'm talking about then you should look up the book.

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Every comment on Facebook or myspace (Back when we all still used both or just myspace)

Every praise of my schoolwork, every compliment on my clothes, made me happier and now I knew why. It made me realize why I talked about myself so much because that's how I was shown love.

I then began to realize how helpful this knowledge was. I discovered that my mothers Love Language is Acts of Service, she was always so much happier when she came home to a clean house or when I would do the dishes for her.

My older sister, Audrey, was definitely not touch! As I studied her more I realized she was gifts. She loved to receive gifts, whether they were bought for $100 or made for $3, the gift itself didn't really matter but she just loved to unwrap things, and fell that you cared enough to get it for her.

Amanda was a little different she was a mixture of touch, words and acts. Which makes her a little easier to show love because with any of those she was happy.

April was a hard one to crack, and I'm still not sure I have her 100% right. I realized she was all five. But she had higher language scores for each person. I think she enjoys being hugged or kissed by her boyfriend, but she is not particularly touchy with her family. (Mainly she hates when I try to hug her, which hurts my feelings but I don't tell her that, I just try to remember her boundaries!) She likes acts of service and quality time from close friends, people who are willing to drive places instead of making her drive or who make plans and then keep them. People who make plans and then cancel them less than 48 before the event, are not ok. Flaky people should stay away from her at all costs. She's not a big gift person but if you find just the right one then you can get a good response. I also think she is an in the closet words of affirmation. I'll keep working at her, till I get it just right.

But the real puzzle is my dad. He is not gifts, or touch. He doesn't mind if you do chores for him, but it doesn't get him excited like it does my mom. I'm sure he likes to be told that he looks snazzy in his tux but other than that he isn't much for words. He is one of those quiet observers. That only leaves one thing. Quality Time. Maybe that's it… It kind of has to be! He never asks for anything. In fact for christmas, birthdays and fathers day he is the hardest to buy for. He doesn't asks me to wash the dishes everyday, he doesn't ask if he looks good in his work clothes, and he only hugs me when I'm leaving for somewhere or holidays or just for fun, but it's not an everyday thing. It has to be quality time, but I love my dad and maybe for him that's enough. Especially now that I'm in college and holidays in the only time I really will see him… Well I'll keep searching.

I wasn't sure about this Love Language post, it felt kind of awkward but now I'm glad. Writing about these out loud helps me remember them and be able to put them in practice. Hopefully everyone takes the time to find out what their own language is, and also care enough to learn their loved ones.

It really will help, knowing that your husband/wife/friend/parent would rather you give them a hug then say he/she is handsome/beautiful or vice versa.

That sounded better in my head.